Her parents: the gift is as a dowry
Who set the yuzhong district, xiao wu concert couple for 3 years. In march, the fruit of their love, together up the aisle. The beginning of new life sweet, they met.
The concert, the parties decide that the mother two partnership, and wedding banquet reception site, bill, gift money, return to matter, envelopes before the wedding is a verbal agreement: the red wedding day, catering and drinks, after the rest of parents divide by both parties. Wedding night and day, they were spread in stone hotel wedding banquet table set, 28 18480 yuan, beverage of banquet of 1848 yuan.
After the wedding, the total is red envelopes from both sides 40200 yuan. Remove catering and drinks, and after the paragraph 19872 yuan. But the remaining money, red envelopes later by her parents, never get out.
In the trial, xiao wu’s mother did not come, but xiao wu’s father in court. He said before the marriage, and not according to the regulation, concert to her family on dowry. When her parents agree with the oral agreement, just don’t want to get some things before marriage. Therefore, after the wedding, natural gift inside when the money, more than they used to her dowry.
Afraid of new money
Many parents custody by amounts
Yesterday, the reporter interviewed in August last year from 5 to April, including four married couples, said the wedding of the gift, all by their parents. Decorate bridal chamber, said another pair of money borrowed from relatives are, after receiving gifts to relatives.
The new teacher living NaPing week daughter street, April, gift by all the married miss zhou keeping. “Honey, is the gift I clear under2standing of using them to their first, keeping up.” Mr. Zhou said.
“In the future, and the money to the gift will return.” NaPing aunt liu, “just calculate very fine temporarily put your money others wait here, family and marriage or when, as well as to stick out.” Miss liu, young people see things not long. Daughter premarital bought bridal chamber is decorated, not money. The wedding took the gift, she cried out with this money will go to Europe “honeymoon”, the money is ok oneself tube, otherwise the tens of thousands of yuan would not.
“Generally, wedding gift, will give chick has.” Melt the peninsula for overseas 01/21/2006 children think more thoughtful. This year, the son of marriage, he all amounts to buy a bank financing products, than deposit interest. “The son and daughter-in-law was not understand, I told them the reason, they were very supportive, in-laws didn’t oppose.” The reason is that young couple 01/21/2006 future after a child, raising children, educational investment, money must have interest, until sided 10 years, can be enough for children read expense.
For the use of gift, new people how to see? Lao Yang’s son, junior or should respect our parents’ advice, they must be good for children. In march, the marriage is that little zhao4 zi3, parents will have to keep amounts is good, but should obtain the approval of new sources of handbags, after all, are also himself and his wife’s friends and colleagues.
Reporter investigation.
The parents: unbearable they take
“They do so, want to borrow money to marry his daughter.” LaoRen angrily say, in order to operate son’s marriage, the old couple didn’t pay less power. Don’t give her dowry custom, this is not to add honey in a set of bridal chamber has 5 yuan deposit. It should be a CaiLiQian, didn’t expect the parents do not recognized.
“We are working class, and send the red envelopes, most are our friends and relatives.” The mother thinks, 28 concert, except for the young couple table colleagues, friends and classmates, in addition to the table of July 15 table is his friends, colleagues, etc.
Mother says, after the concert JieWanHun technically still had some envelopes. Actually initially suggested is considered equal, even feeling in-laws, they are equally taken advantage of “, “now in-laws unexpectedly put forward also can take a share, indeed, let her intolerable.
“We want the gift, in the future, we will go to those who return on your gift giving relatives and friends.” LaoRen said, then The Times, with in-laws communication has been “this is thousand dowry”, let them very angry prevaricate.
This money will forget when dowry
The judge suggested: you’d better work
“We don’t want to Sue them, but they too have no reason.” The mom says, they concert to 60 years old couple, is full of laid-off workers, retired factory wages is not high, now own and diabetes, need treatment. So five times three transgressions until after the invalid request, will tell on court. In-laws
Xiao wu’s father has bald head, he argues, is this not to work, to court. He said: “the gift of money, also used honey.” the expenditure The mother on the spot, gift money has refuted the brother sweetheart to do the construction business, “this is my son, my mouth against the”.
“Your son is a land that?” “It is your daughter to what he said, the certain still use to ask.” Both sides is a quarrel.
Because this is the household chores, judge suggested they conciliation, the judge said: “step aside and let point.” LaoRen said, anyway, both sides before oral agreement reached a step back again, now “, “as long as the defendant refund 5000 yuan gift. The “red envelop”, because they will have to take the gift to still others. Xiao wu’s dad says, reply again to them.
PoZi mama over cash
A young couple divorced
Users and ZhaoFan (a pseudonym) for more than two years later, in love before marriage last year. It was a beautiful wedding in four-star hotels, the more than 50 table.
The young couple have each other after marriage, but because the gift, relations between cracks. Originally the mother will pay to feast, handbags, after drinks a passbook, save in his own name. This lets users parents very uncomfortable, “the gift and our friends and relatives to send a copy of your zha, take in your name, and save?”
Parents complain that users will affect the mood of the users, the mother-in-law had prejudices. But also look out her daughter-in-law, although she often eat well, daughter-in-law daughter-in-law, but often relieved about gift, mother-in-law immediately primly say: “you don’t understand, young, I start to mess with money for you keep up.”
Her daughter-in-law, that greedy son think mom is doing right. The inevitable conflicts between the young couple let out. Constantly, earlier this year, two noisy over short marriage, also make many friends feel sorry the side.
Article/our correspondent LiLan group
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Say again how penny wedding
Chongqing wedding wedding planner as beauty, said ShangXue company before marriage, if both parents and new ideas, unity is ready to keep and use of gift, the storage and use payments will appear. But if both parents and no unified good thoughts, may cause great misunderstanding.
If it is only between parents and new, still can solve some misunderstanding, but if the misunderstanding between both parents, in the solution is more difficult, can appear even users and ZhaoFan this contradiction, accumulate the outcome ended, it is the divorce between parents and new unwilling to see results.
ShangXue Suggestions, first is good, not random. “Brother will clear accounts for future happiness, you don’t speak the embarrassed, first.”